You decided it’s finally time to get your health and fitness in order. You joined a gym, started to eat better, and you began to feel good. You felt good about working out. You felt good when you ate better, but something happened. You started to notice others around you aren’t being as supportive as they once were, and you began second guessing everything.
You started hearing things from friends, coworkers, or family, like:
- “Oh, you’re still on your diet? I thought you would have quit by now.”
- “Why do you have to workout so much?”
- “C’mon, have another slice. It won’t kill you!”
- “Why do you need to workout and diet?”
- “Still at it, huh?”
The worst feeling is when you have made progress and rather getting complimented you get a sting of a comment. You feel your progress, and you see it, but then someone comes around and asks when you’re going to start back with your diet and exercise.
And you stand there thinking, “why bother?”
The people you thought would be the most supportive turned out to be the least supportive. Encouraging you to eat more than you need to, to skip the gym, etc.
There’s something called crabs in a bucket, or crab mentality. It essentially boils down to, “if I can’t have it, neither can you.” Why is it called crabs in a bucket? When crabs are placed in a bucket they could get out pretty easily, but instead of an easy escape the crabs pull each other down to prevent each other from leaving the bucket.
(“You’ll never make it out of here!”)
When you start making progress with your health and fitness, sometimes other people get a little jealous because you are moving ahead, changing, while they are staying the same. Not everyone, of course, is like this. And the folks who try to bring you down, they might not even realize they are doing it. So think about this...
Think about life testing you when you encounter these situations. Testing to see how strong your resolve is. Are you going to just give up because someone is jealous of your success?
This is one of the biggest tests of your life.
Remember why you started. There was a reason. A reason important enough to get you exercising and eating better. Keep it in your mind so you can tune out those crabs, and when they are really trying to bring you down...
Smile and know it’s just a test =)
Stayed tuned for part 2 in this 3 part series on staying on the path to success.
Contact me today and I can help you get started on your new exercise and nutrition program, and together we can ignore the crabs in a bucket :)